January 14: Thoughts for the Day

Now is the best time to start something new.  Now is the best time to recapture a dream gone awry. Now is the time to correct past mistakes.  Now is that “one day” you’ve always talked about.

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On Accident

I listened to an NPR radio talk show the other day, A Way with Words, and learned something interesting about the way language is evolving almost in real-time.  A high school English teacher called to inquire about some language usage he had been hearing during the past ten years; the usage drove him up the walls.

He related how his students use the phrase “on accident” instead of “by accident.”  For example, a student might ask a question of another: “Why did you knock the books out of my hands?’  The response might be: “I’m sorry, it was on accident.”

The talk show hosts discussed the work of a linguist who had discovered that people born before 1970 would be inclined to use only “by accident” whereas people born between 1970 and 1990 might use both phrases interchangeably.  But people born after 1990 would be completely perplexed to hear “by accident” and would think the usage was wrong.

As we were listening to the program, I commented to my wife that “on accident” sounded odd to me, but it might just make sense given the fact that “on purpose” sounds perfectly fine to me.  I can imagine how kids who heard  something stated in the negative (“I did not do it on purpose”) might make the transition to stating the same thing in the positive by saying “I did it on accident.”

Language is so interesting.  In different circumstances, I might have been a linguist.  I might have been a cunning linguist.  I know…I know…but I couldn’t resist.

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January 13: Thoughts for the Day

I do not understand people who believe empathy and sympathy are signs of weakness.  I do not understand people for whom dominion over others is the only sign of strength. If I were a better man, I would try to understand those people.  Instead, I simply loathe them.

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Moving Maybes

My wife and I just returned from a four-day trip to Arkansas, the purposes of which were to: 1) look at some houses in Hot Springs Village that we might consider buying; and 2) visit some ethnic food markets in Little Rock, because Hot Springs Village (HSV) and its nearest neighbor, Hot Springs, are not hotbeds of ethnic cuisines.

The trip was not as productive as we would have liked because of the weather.  The Polar Vortex continued to have its way with central and northern Arkansas during our visit, so we could not even get into Little Rock the first day of our intended visit due to treacherous road conditions; the next day, we could not visit HSV for the same reason, but we did get to Little Rock that day.  And we did find some very nice Indian and Asian and Mexican markets, which satisfied our concern that we might be considering a move into an ethnic food desert.

Our visit to HSV the following day, punctuated by very heavy rain, made house-viewing a wet and messy affair.  It was productive, though, in that we removed one place from our list of possibilities; it is a place that would require extensive work, but priced accordingly.  Another place looked interesting, but didn’t reach out and grab us.

Though we’ve almost settled on moving to HSV, both of us still have some reservations, mostly related to the fact that HSV is almost entirely residential.  But places where there’s a mix of residential and commercial tend to be places in which prices are much higher than in HSV.  Among the appeals of HSV are the physical beauty of the place (amazing trees, lakes, mountain views, etc.) and the very reasonable price of housing.  If we were to put every dime we get out of the sale of our current house in a house in HSV, we very possibly could get a very nice place right on a lake in HSV. We won’t do that, as we want the sale of this house to generate retirement cash.

Though I kind of hate the idea of renting, it might be best for us to consider it for a year; living in HSV for a year would allow us to determine whether it’s really a place we would want to live permanently.

I don’t know.  It would be so much easier if we had a lot of money.  But we don’t.  And there’s the rub.

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January 12: Thoughts for the Day

We measure ourselves against clocks we had no part in creating. Age is a construct we use as a metric of achievement or, conversely, as a measure of what we have not achieved. Until there is no more to measure, we have not reached the limit; the clock  is, and should be, nothing more than a reminder of all the efforts we have yet to make.

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January 11: Thoughts for the Day

For me, early morning, before daybreak, is the best time to be alone with my thoughts, to look inward and express to myself my own appreciation for my place in the world.   That time is mine, alone; I have no incentive to bend the truth, no reason to put on airs, and no need to hide how I feel.   That time, early in the day, is my defense against all that follows.

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January 10: Thoughts for the Day

Ask yourself who is the better chef:

1) the one who, using limitless resources and relying on extensive training, can create a masterpiece of exceptional culinary genius; or

2) the one who, improvising with scarce resources and relying on memory and hope, creates a deeply satisfying meal that feeds the body and warms the soul?

Who is the better friend?

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January 9: Thoughts for the Day

We have to strive to be gentle and understanding.  It takes effort and courage and patience.  Gentleness and compassion require nerves of steel and a heart of stone. That hard, heart-breaking, rugged effort, that monstrously difficult endeavor, is the only truly meaningful work. It is the only thing that really counts. I have a long way to go.

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You Deserve a Break Today

Everyone deserves a break. I deserve a break from my self-imposed insistence that I write something every day. Well, I must continue to do my “Thoughts for the Day,” but I deserve a break from writing my “regular” posts. So, today and tomorrow I may not write a “substantive” post.

I deserve a break today. So do you.

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January 8: Thoughts for the Day

At some point, and it is different for each person, one comes to the understanding that material wealth, conspicuous consumption, and fame do not lead to happiness. It is at that same moment that one becomes most generous, not just with material things, but, with time and intimacy.

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Redefining Tuesday

I wrote another post for today but after reading it again, I decided it was far too negative. The post was a scathing assessment of someone I once worked for; it was not the way to start a perfectly good Tuesday. It will have its time; now is not that time.

So, instead, I’ll direct my thoughts elsewhere.  I met a friend for lunch yesterday.  We spent a couple of hours eating good food, having a few beers, and talking about whatever happened to be on our minds at the moment.  He’s a good guy; one of my favorite people. Being able to spend time with our favorite people is a good time; it’s the sort of experience we all need more of.

I am truly fortunate to live when and where I do and to have a few friends with whom I can occasionally share time that transcends “objectives.”  This is time that just is; no goal, no target, just time.  It’s a luxury too few people seem to have; I’m glad I have that luxury.

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January 7: Thoughts for the Day

Allow yourself to be timid, to be unobtrusive.  Allow the spotlight to bypass you.

Then, be thankful for your solitude, your peace, and the wisdom you have gained by staying away from the frenzy.

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January 6: Thoughts for the Day

Spend some time, just a few minutes, every morning observing beauty.  Focus on it.  Take it in.  Revel in it. Consider why this thing is beautiful to you; consider how it makes you feel.  Doing this one simple thing every morning helps make the rest of the day worthwhile. Whether your day is crowded with activities or stakes no claim to your time, starting it by consciously observing beauty will be calming and serene if you let it.

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Uncool. Yeah, that’s the way I roll.

I take pleasure in knowing that I enjoy certain things that have outlived their brief periods of being cool.  Is it perverse pleasure?  I don’t know.  You tell me. Here is what I am hearing about the now out-of-vogue stuff I like and my responses/comments:

  • I am SO over pomegranate in EVERYTHING! I am not over it; I love pomegranate in pretty much anything.  Within reason.  That aside, your deep-seated need to be a trend-setter causes me to vomit; just thought you’d want to know.
  • I am SO sick of hearing about the edginess of “Orange is the New Black!” Get over it and try something new! Bite me.  It’s one of the only things on television I can stand.
  • Hatch chile MADNESS is so yesterday! Admittedly, the wildly capitalistic foodies who achieved a capsaicin-and-cash-induced orgasm when they reached into your wallet did go a bit overboard, but that does not deter me from really, really enjoying Hatch chiles.
  • The revival of classic cocktails was a flash in the pan; micro-brews are what’s cool now. Hmmm.  If I like it, I drink it. I like classic cocktails. I like micro-brews.  I like what I like. Your measure of hip is irrelevant to me, as are you. So, to summarize: horse shit.
  • Fondue? Oh, please! No? All right, then, can I offer you some pre-digested beef-and-corn meatballs?
  • Nehru jackets? Are you kidding?  I’ve never had one. I’ve wanted one since the 1970s. I like their style; it’s the closest to style I’ll ever get. As for you, you’d look good in a strait-jacket.
  • You remember cargo shorts — the circa ’97 type that you could use to store everything from lunch leftovers to a small child. Yeah, well, those are so two decades ago…  That was a direct quote. Well, f&@k him!  I’m rather partial to cargo shorts, mofo; try to take them away from me, I’ll store your corpse in the side pocket.
  • Sweatpants in public– Unless you’re going to the gym, avoid wearing sweats out in public. You’re not wearing them to look your best, you’re wearing them because you’re lazy.  Another direct quote; number 23 of 40 men’s  fashion mistakes to avoid. No, axxhole, I am wearing them because they’re comfortable and it’s too chilly for cargo shorts.  You don’t like them?  Cover your sensitive eyes with something; here, use my ice pick.
  • Oh, God, would you stopping photographing your food?!  It’s gross! Only after you stop breathing; breathing does not become you.  I didn’t start taking photos of food because I thought it was fashionable and I won’t stop because you think it’s not.
  • Blogging?  How quaint. Do people actually read them anymore?  I’m all about quaint. You prefer releasing your personal data through Snapchat?

OK, with that all said, I have to admit there are times when I want to follow the trend.  That I must admit such a fundamental flaw of character is an embarrassment of monumental proportions; I’d rather say, and mean, I don’t give a shit what other people think.  Well, that’s not right, either.  I care what people who matter to me think; I just wish they wouldn’t think shallowness matters.  And I wish I wouldn’t think it matters.

See, the way I WANT to be is this: if long hair and round wire-rimmed glasses are “in” and I like them, I want to feel good about liking them.  If they’re “out” and I like them, I want to feel good about liking them.  And that goes with everything else.  Almost everything else.  Many other things. Some other things. A few other things.  Well.  Maybe.

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Maybe, one day…

I spent a substantial part of the morning yesterday revising and polishing the beginning of a short story I began to write a few days ago.  I’ve not written much; so far, I’ve only  reached 950 words and my guess is that it will multiply many-fold before it’s suitable for viewing outside my line of vision.

For a variety of reasons, I am more pleased with what I’ve written thus far than with anything I have written in quite some time.  I don’t know that anyone else will think much of it, but I do.  When I finish it, I may submit it…somewhere…for consideration for publication.  I don’t know where, I don’t even remember how anymore. But I will dust off what little I recall about writing for publication, then update my knowledge, then send it off to have someone pass judgment on it.  Consequently, I won’t post it here as I am wont to do with damn near everything I write (or at least parts of what I write).

What made me think it’s better than my usual drivel?  As I was reading what little I’ve written of this short piece of fiction (it’s a short, short story), I felt myself reacting emotionally to the piece.  So, I figure either I’m getting to a point I haven’t reached before in my writing or I’ve written something that triggers a cheesy, predictable daytime soap response in my brain.

I have to be flip about this; otherwise, things could get ugly.

 

 

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January 5: Thoughts for the Day

Where there is great doubt,
there will be great awakening;
small doubt,
small awakening;
no doubt,
no awakening.

~Traditional Zen adage~

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There, but for the grace of God, go I

“There, but for the grace of God, go I.”

I’ve often wondered about the origin of that phrase. I finally looked it up. If the online presence of “Britannia: America’s Gateway to the British Isles Since 1996” is to be believed, the phrase was uttered by one John Bradford.

Bradford was ordained as a Protestant ‘roving chaplain’ during the reign of Edward the 6th. According to Britannia, he was “often referred to as ‘holy Bradford’ not in derision, but from respect to his unselfish service to God and those around him.” After Edward’s death, Mary Tudor came to power and zealously campaigned to resurrect Roman Catholicism and to rid the empire of “heretics.” Bradford, of course, was one such heretic who would be made a martyr.

Before he was burned at the stake on January 31, 1555, Bradford had occasion to see other men led toward their execution. It is said that, upon seeing those condemned men walking by, he said, “There, but for the grace of God, go I.

While the phrase may well have its origins based firmly in religion, today it is simply an acknowledgement that bad luck or being in the wrong place at the wrong time or coincidence or whatever you choose to call it can wreak havoc on one’s life. It behooves me to understand that I am truly fortunate.

Good fortune is not a guarantee.

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January 4: Thoughts for the Day

This is the first Saturday of the year.  There’s never before been a Saturday in the year 2014.  If that’s not a reason to celebrate, I don’t know what is!

So, today I celebrate First Saturday.  It’s one of my new holidays.  There are gifts to be shared, you know.  First Saturday gifts.    Everyone gets one.  Each one is from the heart.  Look for yours; it’s there, believe me!

Here’s the easiest way to find your First Saturday gift.  Sit down in a quiet room, alone, and close your eyes for five minutes.  During that time, imagine yourself floating on a soft cushion in black space; imagine seeing millions upon millions of stars in that black space. Breathe slowly, allowing every breath to give you a growing sense of absolute calm.

After five minutes, open your eyes.  See!  There’s your present!  Let the celebrations begin!

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Putting My Shoulder to the Wheel

Have you ever allowed your curiosity to lead you far, far afield of where it started? I do that quite a lot.  Recently, I heard someone say “I need to put my shoulder to the wheel and get this done.” There’s something about language, especially phrases like that, that I find deeply interesting.   I’d heard the phrase about putting one’s shoulder to the wheel before, of course, but I didn’t know its origin. My curiosity piqued, I went looking.

It didn’t take much to get to Aesop’s fable about Hercules and the Wagoner.

A CARTER was driving a wagon along a country lane, when the wheels sank down deep into a rut. The rustic driver, stupefied and aghast, stood looking at the wagon, and did nothing but utter loud cries to Hercules to come and help him. Hercules, it is said, appeared and thus addressed him: “Put your shoulders to the wheels, my man. Goad on your bullocks, and never more pray to me for help, until you have done your best to help yourself, or depend upon it you will henceforth pray in vain.”

The moral of the story: self-help is the best help.

From there, I decided to explore the meaning of fable.  That led immediately to allegory and then to apologue, which then led to aphorism which led to apothegm which led to adage which led to maxim which led to proverb. And between those, I occasionally got sidetracked.

Somewhere along the line I realized what was happening; I was following language clues through a labyrinth that led me not just to answers, but to more questions and more clues. That, of course, led me to consider the word labyrinth and its meaning.  It didn’t take much to get me to question the word warren, then wonder about a rabbit-warren, then to start thinking about the use of warren to describe over-crowded residential buildings.  And when I pictured overcrowded residential buildings in my mind, I saw what are commonly called tenements. But then, for just a moment, I thought back to the rabbit-warren, and that caused me to remember a birthday card I’d sent to someone recently, you know one of those funny animated electronic birthday cards; this one included the phrase “vampire lesbian bunny rabbit.”

During this process, it occurred to me that I was learning or re-learning quite a bit about words, but some of the meat and potatoes of the context in which I found them was being left in the dust.  For example, at some point in this rather pointless exercise I came across references to Euripides and Aeschylus and Sophocles. Though I have heard the names and may once (long, long, long ago) have known a shred about them, I realized I know almost nothing about them today, other than they wrote tragedies.  I thought to myself, “I really should learn more about them…it’s embarrassing that I don’t know what they wrote and how they influence modern culture.”

My embarrassment led back to this: if I am going to become knowledgeable about the words I just explored and learn about three writers of Greek tragedies, I’d better put my shoulder to the wheel.

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January 3: Thoughts for the Day

Any recipe that calls for a single clove of garlic must be considered suspect; that recipe was very probably produced by someone who does not like you.  Always use a minimum of three cloves of garlic, regardless of the recipe’s measure, or you’ll have vampires running rampant in your kitchen.

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The Sotomayor Order

Perhaps I just don’t understand the full scope of the issue…or perhaps I understand it and am simply in disagreement with a lot of people with whom I’m normally in political lockstep.  In either case, I’ll go on record in agreement with Supreme Court Justice Sonia Sotomayor’s order temporarily preventing the government from enforcing contraceptive coverage requirements against the Denver-based religious organization.

While I am very much in favor of giving women free access to contraceptives, I am very much opposed to governmental interference that effectively ignores religious principles.  Do I agree that the Little Sisters of the Poor Home for the Aged should preach abstinence over contraception and do I think the organization should withhold contraceptives from employees?  No. But it’s really not my business.  And as long as employees of the organization have ready alternative access to contraceptives, should they want them, I see no legitimate reason to force a religious organization to be the one providing or paying for access to contraceptives if that would be contrary to the organization’s religious principles.  Given that the ACA requires free contraceptives in insurance plans, I would see no problem making whatever adjustments are necessary to ensure that employees of religious organizations have access outside the church.

It would be an entirely different story if the church or other religious organization attempted to block the government from granting the organization’s employees access to contraceptives apart from the church.  If that were the case, I would be up in arms about it.  But I have real issues with the government essentially discounting religious principles…even though I vigorously disagree with those principles.

Convince me I’m wrong, or that I don’t get it.

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January 2: Thoughts for the Day

The second day of a new year means the year is no longer new.  It is fresh, but not new. But the day is new.  I have an opportunity to experience another day, one that’s never been experienced before.  Today, I will dance for no other reason than to celebrate movement.  Today, I will think for no other reason than to celebrate thought.

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January 1: Thoughts for the Day

Today is the beginning of a new year.  This day is no more magical than any other day, but it is a day, our traditions tell us, that begins a new chapter.

January 1 is a day in which I can, if I choose, look inward.  If I look closely enough, I might see unexpected beauty. Let this be a day during which I seize that opportunity.

Already, I see the beauty around me.  I am fortunate that there is so much goodness in the people I love.  Today, my beautiful wife and I are beginning a new year together.  That is as good as it gets.

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I Resolve to Have a Happy New Year!

It is fashionable of late to mock the practice of making New Year’s Resolutions.  I’ve been guilty of treating the tradition badly.  We (those of us who behave badly by mocking the tradition) seem to be saying, “Ha, what a silly, futile attempt at self-improvement!  Only a fool would make a promise to himself (or herself) that is bound to be broken!”

I’m a skeptic, through and through, but that attitude is uncaring, hurtful, and certainly unhelpful.  I’ve been there.  I know whereof I speak.

So, let’s collectively agree to get off that ugly bandwagon and commit to helping people who make New Year’s Resolution…let’s help them keep those resolutions!  Supporting people who wish to better themselves is simply the right thing to do.  With the loving support of friends and family, resolutions can be kept.  They can change lives for the better.

With that as a preface, let me make a few resolutions of my own.  They are mine, alone, and I don’t hold anyone else accountable for their achievement.  But I will appreciate support.

  • Return to my old habit of walking regularly;
  • Improve my diet;
  • Overcome my tendency toward anger and impatience;
  • Do better…be better.

Yes, they are generic and, in their present form, hard to measure.  But they are just the start.  I will use them as the basis for forming specific, measurable goals.

I love you who spend a little time here with me.  And, of course, I love my wife deeply, despite the fact that she doesn’t spend time here!

Happy New Year to each of you.  All the best for a wonderful, happy, healthy, and fulfilling 2014!

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A New Tradition

Tomorrow, I will begin a new tradition.  Every day, I will post here my “thoughts for the day” in addition to my regular, or irregular, stream-of-consciousness posts.

These “thoughts for the day” won’t necessarily be motivational pep talks to myself, but there will be times when that is precisely what they will be.  Mostly, though, they will be things that are relevant to me on that day.  I hope they will be relevant to other people, too. Unlike my sometimes too-intense rants, they may be on the lighter side.  But not always.

My new tradition will not replace my old traditions.  For example, I will still eat black-eyed peas on New Year’s Day (for prosperity).  And I will refrain from doing laundry on New Year’s Day (AKA “washing for a corpse”).  I will enjoy chile con queso and tamales and beer on Christmas Eve.  I will eat hot-dogs on all traditional  “eat hot-dogs days.”  I have loads of traditions.  More than I realize, I think.

I hope those who subscribe to my updates will indulge me by accepting what probably will be two updates on most days.  I hope at least one of them may be useful or thought-provoking or, at least, entertaining.

Ultimately, though, this blog and my new tradition target me.  I will have succeeded if, eventually, I find value in writing or in reading what I have written.

 

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