On the Trail

Here are a few photos from our hike today at Petit Jean State Park. Mi esposa bonita y mi cuñadaa hermosa and I did a bit of wandering around.  Only about 2 miles in total, I’d guess, but it was some spectacular scenery (and lots of climbing). My brothers in Mexico called me mid-hike (actually, toward the end), but the connection got lost almost immediately.  That seems to be  my experience with calls between the U.S. and Mexico, more often than not.

Underneath the black sweatshirt I had on today, I was wearing a red t-shirt.  I discovered later, after our adventures, that red is an unnatural color for me, making me look like a dope with a sunburn. I suppose my wish for being more attractive in any color is wasted wishery.

Anyway, here are a few snapshots.  I haven’t posted photos in ages.  Probably because I’m not a good photographer.  At least I got one good photo of my wife.  I’ll save that for myself.

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Accidental Eavesdropping

There’s a restaurant in Dallas—actually in the city limits of Plano, I think—with an odd characteristic.  I think it’s the ceiling that allows conversations at each of two specific tables across the room from one another to be heard at the other table.  Even whispers at one table resonate clearly at the other.  My wife and I experienced this more than once.  It was eerie, as if we were listening in on someone’s private conversation.  Which, in fact, we were.  But they heard ours, as well. We faced a choice.  We could either have them arrested for felony eavesdropping or we could drop the matter. There were other options, of course. We made a choice. And it stands. We chose to remember the experience.  I chose to write about it. I suppose I should divulge the name of the restaurant.  It’s Luna de Noche, on Preston Road. The tortilla soup is exceptional.  The complimentary roasted pepper salsa is excellent. The ceiling looks like a starry night sky.  And it acts like a listening device.

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Thirty-Nine

Yield to it, indulge yourself in the experience you seek.

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Prism

Borrowed from http://hex13.deviantart.com/

Borrowed from http://hex13.deviantart.com/

I find something about prisms vaguely unsettling. Perhaps it’s the fact that they look so simply elegant, yet they so completely alter reality. Let me think on that.

Recently, I read that the speed of light changes when it moves from one medium to another, for example from air to water.  I had always assumed that the speed of light is constant, that it does not change.  Now, I wonder whether my assumption was wrong, or whether the writer of the article knew of my gullibility and simply lied to me out of spite.  Regardless, prisms—simple pieces of transparent glass or plastic or what have you with angular polished surfaces—change the way I experience light.

My fascination is not with the idea of prisms themselves, but with the facts their existence lay forth. Reality as we know it can be bent, transformed into something different than we knew it by something as unremarkable as a piece of glass. The same is true of people who become important parts of our lives almost without our realizing it. Both prisms and people can bring beauty into our lives; both of them can alter the realities we have known. Both can give us focus and clarity. And intrigue.

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Thirty-Eight

If you sit alone long enough, in a room with a pleasant view over a verdant valley pocked with lakes and ponds, you’ll conclude that problems with people and their personalities don’t matter. The room and the view and the solitude will suffice.

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Solitary Refinement

This morning’s tasks include a visit to the pottery studio to carve bases into pots I threw two days ago. I suspect all six pots will be too wet, still, to handle, so I’ll have to put them in front of fans to dry before I go about smoothing the bottom edges, then carefully carving indentations into their bases. This step is done on the potter’s wheel, too, but at slow speed, with the pots placed upside down on a batt on the wheel and affixed, temporarily, with wet clay. It’s an involved process, requiring care to ensure the pot is centered. The process, like throwing pots, requires practice and patience, which is something I need to refine for myself. I would prefer to do this in my own studio, here at the house, but I have no studio here at the house, so that’s impossible. Throwing pottery, or making slab pots for that matter, is a task best done alone, in my way of thinking. That suits me. It’s like writing and thinking in that regard. Improving my capabilities requires a little more, or a lot more, solitary refinement.

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Thirty-Seven

Listen more, talk less, empathize more, judge less, forgive more, blame less. At least that’s the plan. But plans tend to change, don’t they?

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A Delicate Relationship with the Devil

“I can try to ignore the feeling, but it won’t let me. What is it? Lust? Desire? Love? It’s hard to say exactly what it is, but it’s so strong it takes over almost every waking moment. She’s on my mind, constantly. When I’m out for a drive, trying to relax and enjoy the countryside, my thoughts turn to her. I imagine stroking every inch of her body. ”

Gamber’s face flushed and he spoke faster as he revealed more about his obsession.

“When I’m in her presence, it takes every bit of my self-control to keep from taking her in my arms and kissing her. But I have this irrational feeling that maybe, just maybe, she harbors the same feelings for me that I have for her.  And that’s what makes it so hard for me to let it go. What if she is waiting for a signal from me and I’m waiting for a signal from her? That’s the stuff of tragedies, you know? Jesus, how can I deal with this?”

“Look, you need to slow down and think,” I said, gingerly, hoping I was not stepping into the middle of a pit of quicksand that would quickly consume me.

“I think you’re obsessed with her because she helped you get through Dianna’s illness.  She’s been there to support you since she died, so it’s natural that you have feelings for her, but what you’re telling me is, you know, over the top. I think it’s just an emotional reaction to dealing with a really bad time. She’s your sister-in-law, for God’s sake, and my best friend! ”

His brow furrowed as he looked away from me.  He closed his eyes for a moment, then said, “I know I’m putting you in a tough spot, Lisa, but you’re the only person I can talk to about this. This is not something I can discuss with my male friends. It’s just not.”

“I know, and I want you to know I’m here for you, too. And don’t worry about putting me in a tough spot, ” I said, wishing he’d never said a word to me. “Look, women tend to share things with their friends that men don’t. I think Susan would have told me if she had romantic feelings for you.  She hasn’t. Even if she had, I’d warn both of you from getting entangled. People’s reactions to you two getting together would be brutal.”

And so, I’ve started writing this story of an uncomfortable romantic entanglement from the perspective of the female narrator who doesn’t want to be in the position she’s in.  I’m trying to decide now which of the scenarios I’ve created will be best to move the story forward:

  1. 1) Gamber reveals his feelings to his sister-in-law, Susan, with potentially devastating consequences;
  2. A romantic relationship develops between the narrator and Gamber, putting both of them in a precarious position with regard to their relationship with Susan; or
  3. Gamber dies early in the story in a tragic accident, after which the narrator reveals to Susan what Gamber told her and then the story flashes back to Susan revealing her mental anguish to the narrator, before her sister’s death, in controlling her romantic feelings for Gamber.

If anyone reading this has an opinion (or a scathing criticism), I’d love to read it.

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Creative Struggles

So, for no reason other than being lazy about writing this morning, I decided instead to create a list of some of the fiction or near-fiction or weird vignettes or simple scenes I’ve written in the past couple of years. Many (most?) of these are incomplete, the detritus of jumbled thoughts I thought it best to document, for some reason. However, I may be able to use much of this (some of this?) in writing a book or two. Or a compilation. Or maybe not. Such are the creative struggles of this guy.

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Thirty-Six

My immediate reaction, when I heard a couple of days ago that a “sequel” to Harper Lee’s To Kill a Mockingbird is coming out was elation. Then, I learned yesterday that there is serious concern that she is being duped into allowing its publication before her death. There is a special place at the end of a sharp spear for people who would do such a thing.

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Thinking Across the Human Divide

Creativity is impossible, I think,  without the ability to change one’s perspective, to see the world from disparate vantage points and with different eyes.  I cannot adequately capture in words,even in thought, the experience of a woman giving birth to a child unless I attempt to put myself in the position, psychologically, of being a woman and birthing a child. While I may never truly understand either experience, I cannot even come close without attempting to let go of myself and become someone else.

I think it would be interesting, if daunting, to try to write an imaginary autobiography of a person with whom I share virtually nothing.  Perhaps a black female, a Muslim, who has joined an ISIS cell; a woman on the verge of carrying out a suicide attack on a Christian nursing home situated next door to a charitable foundation dedicated to eliminating hunger in African countries.  The amount of research involved in such an undertaking would be enormous.  The amount of creative personal displacement would be staggering. I doubt I am up to the task at the moment.  But I cannot know unless I try, right?

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Thirty-Five

If you have never eaten abalone, you have missed out on one of the joys of life. It has been years since I’ve had abalone. I feel the need to have it again. Hawaii is said to be one of the best places to get abalone. I recommend Hawaii. Go there, have fun, and have a bit of abalone. Avoid the poi, though.

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Damage without Tears

Someone, maybe your father or your uncle, told you men don’t cry.

You kept hearing it. And you heard “big boys don’t cry.” The messages were clear: if you cry, you’re not a big boy.  If you cry, you’re not a man.

So, you learned to stifle the urge to let your emotions loose.  You learned to suck it up, hold it in.  Over time, you got so good at it that it was no longer hard. You learned you could, with practice, switch off the emotions that put you in risky territory, a place in which a tear might fall.  And you learned other men did the same.

Except those who didn’t. Or couldn’t. Or wouldn’t. They were the ones everyone made fun of.  They were the ones called crybabies at recess.  Later, they would be the ones bullied by the especially macho types.  And then, even later, they would be the ones whose emotions caused discomfort in a room full of men–and even women–when they just couldn’t hold back their tears when a close relative or a pet died.

Since at least the late 1970s, though, society has been on the path of acknowledging the harm caused by teaching boys to suppress their emotions.  Surely the message has gotten through, right?

You tell me.

This piece is an experiment.  I wrote it after reading something about how the application of techniques used in ad copy writing can be used effectively to capture a reader’s interest. Nothing to see here, people, just flexing my fingers.

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Thirty-Four

Lacking the patience to do a job one does not want to do is perfectly fine, provided the job does not need doing.  Otherwise, the first step in accomplishing the necessary task is to find a source of patience sufficient to outlast the endeavor.

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Thinking Through My Fingers

There is a fine line, I think, between acceptable social constraints on behavior and intolerable suppression.  Constraints on behavior should be based on some generally agreed moral code (a topic I’ve pondered here and here and here recently).

It is no small feat to find the line of demarcation, precisely because of the absence of general agreement on what constitutes acceptable behavior.  From my vantage point, it seems that a vocal and media-savvy minority is pushing, hard to scale back the boundaries of what is and is not acceptable, using rigid interpretations of scripture as their yardstick for measuring acceptability.

When challenged as to the legitimacy of their arguments, this scurrilous lot of evangelical moralizers insist that the only acceptable moral code is the one drummed into them from their ‘good book,’ the potential fallibility of which is simply not open for discussion.  Indeed, their interpretation of the book and their understanding of its literal instructions for everyday life are not to be questioned. Their objective is to dispel doubt by forbidding questions.  Unfortunately, it seems to me there are enormous herds of people willing to accept that offer.

In my mind, conversations and debates and arguments are key to establishing broad consensus on standards of behavior, morality, and whether acceptable limitations to freedom can be identified and agreed upon.

People who refuse to discuss even the possibility that their world view may not be the only “right” one make me tired.  They attempt to bully themselves into positions of moral authority, an irony if ever there was one.

Morality and right and wrong are moving targets.  And they should be.

And so I have come to the end of this exercise in “thinking through my fingers.”  That’s a phrase I heard from a writer friend. I had used “thinking with my fingers,” but hearing her version persuaded me it was an improvement over mind.

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Thirty-Three

Expediency. The word suggests to me self-interest and a general disregard for morality and justice. But that’s not always the way it is used.  Many who use the word ignore its permeating overtones of immorality and injustice; instead, they use it as a word conveying efficiency, ignoring the indecency that may lay in the path toward the goal.

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Blood in the Forest

The path ahead is clear, the ground compressed by thousands of footsteps during the course of several years.  Leaves cover the ground in a moist, mottled brown and grey and beige blanket, cushioning the terrain. But it’s not smooth; no, far from it. Rocks unwilling to yield to the pressure of human feet protrude from the ground.  Tree roots, too stubborn to remain comfortably beneath the surface, bulge underfoot, doing their best to trip up intruders in the forest. Beneath the naked trees, on both sides of the path, dried leaves left unmolested by the heavy shoes and boots plodding along the path form a crust on the forest floor.  As we trudge along the trail, birds flit from tree to tree, hiding among the few dried leaves remaining attached to the branches. Occasionally, beneath the thick crust of leaves, rustling sounds confirm the presence of ground squirrels making a hasty retreat from the vibrations our feet make as they strike the ground with each heavy step.

My mind is not on the nature around me; rather, my thoughts focus on the figure fifty feet ahead of me in the forest, the person leading the way along the path. I know he has a compelling reason to hate me. He has never verbally expressed his hatred, but he has implied it a thousand time with his eyes. He could decide at any moment that this is the right place, the right time, to kill  me.  As I contemplate this unsettling idea, he stops suddenly, turns, and points a pistol in my direction. I hear the sound of the bullet ripping through my abdomen at the same time I hear the report of the shot. I feel no pain, only surprise and fear.

I step backward, trying to catch myself before I fall, but my efforts are to no avail. Stumbling down a gentle slope beside the trail, I crack my head against a tree, which spins me sideways into another tree and, finally, I fall face-up on the forest floor. Now I feel the pain in my gut, not the excruciating pain one might expect after having been shot, but a broad, ugly agony, enveloping my torso like a vice is closing around it. I try to breathe, but can’t take in air. My brain ceases to process the pain of the gunshot and, instead, floods me with panic that I cannot breathe. Terror overtakes the pain of the gut wound. I struggle to breathe, I try to take in air. It’s as if my throat and my chest and all the muscles that function so automatically and so effortlessly have stopped working.  I bring my hands to my mouth, hopelessly trying to use them to open my mouth, attempting to force my mouth to work for me.  Then, I see him standing over me, his face expressionless.

“Uh oh. Looks like your day just took a turn for the worse.  Too bad. And it started out as such a nice one.” He snickers and smiles.

A loud crack of thunder punctuates his comment.  As he turns and walks away, the sky seems to explode with rain, the downpour  so heavy I feel like a bucket of water has been thrown on my face. Just as suddenly as my breath left me, it returns. The rush of oxygen and rain-drops into my lungs coincide with a blinding pain in my chest, as if the air ignited, filling my lungs with fire. I start coughing convulsively, each spasm sending waves of intolerable pain through my body.  Slowly, the pain diminishes.  It’s there, but it seems distant, like it doesn’t belong to me. I feel drops of rain pelt my face as my eyes lose focus; I stare up at the bare trees and drift into a haze of wetness and pain and fear that I’ll die where I lay, unable to explain to Carolina what happened and why.

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Thirty-Two

The best way to be welcomed into all social circles is to keep your beliefs and opinions to yourself.  But that’s also known as cowardice. Midway between coward and doctrinaire is a happy medium, though “happy” may be stretching it.

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Trends in Benign Neglect

I read something not long ago  in which the term “benign neglect” was used.  My memory tells me it was used to describe a suggested policy in which improvements in education would occur if the State would just stop investing time and resources in making improvements in education.  In essence, the suggested policy of “laying off” was a back-handed way of saying State involvement in education creates more problems than it solves.

While not agreeing with the concept entirely, I can agree that some programs foisted on school districts do more to distract from the primary task of education than to enhance it.

But it wasn’t education that popped into my mind this morning. It was the term, “benign neglect.”  I’ve been familiar with the term for quite some time, though I couldn’t recall exactly when I first heard it.  I thought I’d explore it a bit more.

It turns out that “benign neglect” was a term used by Daniel Patrick Moynihan (while he was an urban affairs adviser to President Reagan) in a proposal to the President that the issue of race be treated with “benign neglect” in an attempt to remove emotion from the national agenda on the topic.  Whether Moynihan was the originator of the phrase, I do not know.

I wonder which governmental policies and practices could be placed at least temporarily on hold, thus giving society relief from onerous or idiotic policies in the form of benign neglect. While I think the term as used by Moynihan might have been interpreted as more neglectful than benign, I suspect there’s plenty of room for benign neglect in public policy today.  I doubt the trend is going in that direction, though.

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Thirty-One

At what point does one begin to feel guilt at violating a moral standard or compromising personal integrity? I suppose it varies with the individual, but that suggests a crack in the moral code, doesn’t it; isn’t morality by definition a universal social contract governing right and wrong?  There’s where it all goes to hell in a handbasket. We can’t agree, as a species, on a universal social contract. If we could, there would be far less conflict in the world.

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Unauthorized Autobiography

I got up, wrote some, then decided to go back to bed for a while.  It was almost 6:45 when I awoke for the second time, light already filtering into the house.  Between the time I went back to sleep and arose for the day, I had an odd dream.  As soon as I got up again, I wrote down as much as I could remember; it was one of those dreams in which there are seemingly disconnected stretches of activity, but for some reason they seem part of the same dream.

This dream was odd, even as my dreams go. I was an unwilling, helpless hanger-on in this dream.  I didn’t speak; I just watched and listened and went along for the ride, as it were.

As I was documenting the dream, I had a thought: is there such a genre as autobiographic fantasy memoir? If not, maybe I could create one.  I could call it Unauthorized Fantasy Autobiography of a Known Serial Dreamer.  Or maybe not.

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Description

He is about five feet, seven inches tall, with a roundish face, jowls betraying a strong affinity for food, and sandy grey hair, cut long enough that it can be combed a bit, but not long enough to enable him to control or hide his cowlick.  His medium brown eyes, framed by the rounded rectangles of his brown metal-rimmed eyeglasses, look forlorn. When he smiles, the pronounced diastema between his two upper front teeth draw attention away from the fact that his teeth are the color of dull cream, suggesting a lifelong love affair with coffee. The drooping man-boobs barely hidden behind his well-worn black t-shirt, like his jowls and his too-large belly, are evidence of his lack of discipline, both at the dining table and at the gym.  His legs are short and sturdy, knotty mesquite stumps weathered putty-grey and strengthened by carrying too much upper-body weight.  Crumpled and creased cargo shorts, cinched tightly just above the hips to avoid the embarrassment of dropping to the floor at inopportune times, add to the image of an aging geezer who has long since stopped caring much about appearances and, instead, pursues comfort as an avocation.  The package is completed by a pair of worn rubber and leather flip-flops, his footwear of choice whenever temperatures rise above sixty degrees. What’s missing, of course, is what’s buried in that brain, the longing and anger and happiness and hate, the curiosity about what motivates him, but the inability to guess.

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Thirty

Almost one-twelfth of the year has passed.  What do you have to show for it?  What plans have you solidified?  What steps have you taken; not talked about, taken? My answers to those questions are deeply unsatisfying.

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Three Minutes to Midnight

The Science and Security Board of the Bulletin of Atomic Scientists, the body responsible for setting the “Doomsday Clock,” recently adjusted the hands of the clock forward by two minutes to 11:57 p.m.  And so, the metaphor for the risk of the end our species, has ticked ahead, a little closer to the last cataclysm.

If world leaders are not forced by their constituents and stakeholders to take action to forestall catastrophe, the scientists warn, we are just minutes away from our end as a species, due to nuclear war, climate change, and other environmental factors.  A statement issued by the organization is sobering, indeed: “World leaders have failed to act with the speed or on the scale required to protect citizens from potential catastrophe. These failures of political leadership endanger every person on Earth.”

I wonder why the recent announcement of the adjustment of the Doomsday Clock has not met with the same level of alarm in the media as such announcements have generated in the past? I wonder whether we no longer believe the warnings carry much weight or whether they are unwelcome reminders of the certainty that their predictions are just a bit closer to becoming reality.

Perhaps it’s just a temporary mood, but my thoughts this morning tend toward the latter. And I think human beings have become so frustrated with the actions of our species that we’re beginning to think it’s for the best. Violence, poverty, unbridled greed, hate,loathing, religious fanaticism, dwindling resources, inadequate means of distributing food, destruction of natural habitat at breathtaking speed, starvation, oppression.  That’s quite enough to make extinction look like a reasonable alternative to the world as it is today.

I wonder whether an unexpected development on the world stage will give humanity reason for renewed hope.  If so, it must happen fast.  We only have three minutes.

And with that happy thought, I’ll now prepare for a short visit to the pottery studio in a little while to take care of some last-minute work with clay pots in advance of extinction.

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Twenty-Nine

The only way to learn whether hope can arise from the ashes of despair is to incinerate despair, which is a task of almost unimaginable scope and breadth in a world saddled with greed, poverty, starvation, and religion-fueled psychosis.

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