Three Hundred Fifty-Two

Some questions go unasked out of fear of repercussions; fear that the subtle clues that led to them were misread. Conversations that might have led to extraordinary joy, therefore, go unspoken. Yet, if the clues were indeed misread, then the justifiable fears prevent explosive emotional rifts incapable of salvation. Risks versus rewards. We settle for safe mid-ground when the other options are damnation or ecstasy.

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Strengths

I’ve written before about the weakness people tend to associate with others, especially men, who do not or cannot control certain emotions. Here, I’m talking about men who tear up, cry, or otherwise react in an “effeminate” manner in circumstances in which “real men” remain stoic.

I’ve decided, after much consideration, that men who are able to allow themselves to be affected by events or ideas to the point of expressing emotion through tears are stronger than men who react like rocks. Emotions offer evidence of one’s humanity; they are not to be derided. They should be celebrated. The ability to remain dry-eyed and unmoved by circumstances that move women and “weak” men is not a strength; it is a weakness. It is evidence that the person either has been socialized into false bravado or has lost the ability to demonstrate empathy. In either case, that person is weaker than the person who can freely display compassion and empathy.

That’s what I’m thinking at this hour. You?

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Three Hundred Fifty-One

My voice, spoken through my fingers tapping on the keyboard, expresses thoughts too intimate for my tongue and my teeth to fashion into words. My virtually unknown blog allows me the freedom to express myself in ways I am unlikely to ever do in most personal encounters. Only after I feel absolute trust for a person can I express, face to face, what I express online and, beyond that, things I would never write. I wonder whether everyone is like me in that way? I suspect so, but one cannot know what is in another person’s mind unless that person is willing to share it.

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Damn Me

I wonder, seriously, if my decision to take a break from Facebook is a slap in the face of the friends I care about.  Am I  telling them the platform is too onerous, too taxing to my psyche, for me to tolerate it; that their presence is not enough to warrant my continued involvement?

That’s what worries me at the moment. That I’ve inadvertently told people I care about that I don’t care enough about them to tolerate a social media platform that tends to bother me at times.

I am rethinking things. Again. I always do that. And maybe I’ve convinced myself, already, that my decision was selfish and unthinking. Damn me. Damn me so much. I am so bloody bad at telling people who matter that they matter.

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Towing Jehovah Sets Off Sparks

I’ve been reading, in fits and starts, Towing Jehovah, a fantasy novel by James Morrow. The premise of the book is that God has died. The archangel, Rafael, hires a supertanker captain seeking redemption for causing one of the worst oil spills in history to tow God’s two-mile-long body to the arctic to be preserved and, to hide the fact from humanity.

Though I’m not far into the novel, I now realize it’s the sort of thing I want to write. And I didn’t even know I liked reading fantasy. I should have known, as I’ve written (or, in some cases, just started writing) several very short pieces of fantasy—absurdist fantasy I call it— such as The Mane Thing, Sharecroppers, Fulcrum, Turn Back Time, A Curious Experience, and Fairytales on Acid for Demented Adults, right here on this blog. Looking back at several of those pieces this morning, I realized I enjoyed writing them. And, though I do not put myself in the class of James Morrow, I conceived each one of them as a means to espouse philosophies; admittedly, though, I never got to the point of articulating those philosophies in most of them.

It’s odd that I’ve always considered the short fantasies I’ve written as simple diversions, rather than anything I’d seriously pursue. To be honest with myself, I suppose I’ve always considered fantasy novels beneath my dignity; I continue to learn, even at my advanced age, that I don’t know the world, or myself, nearly as well as I sometimes think. I don’t know if I’ll write a fantasy novel. But I admit, now, that such an undertaking could be worthwhile.

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Three Hundred Fifty

I watched the day creep along, hobbling along like an old man with a bent and unusable walking stick, insisting it was enough to support him. He insisted he was strong enough to hobble up the hill. I shouldn’t have listened. He rolled down the hill, a rolling pin out of control on a brutal slope. No, this didn’t happen. But it might have. And I wonder if I would have prevented the accident.

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Ends in Fire

Kai Coggin, an incredible poet in Hot Springs, Arkansas offered to write personal poems for people she knows for a very modest fee. (I encourage anyone happening upon my page here to have a look at her website: www.kaicoggin.com).Having read quite a bit of her poetry, I jumped at the chance to have her write a poem for me. I chose to ask her to write a poem about my soul, one of the subjects she offered to write about. Recently, I met her over a beer at the local brew pub. She read the poem aloud to me and gave me a copy. I was more than touched; I was deeply moved by her words and what she saw in me to write about. Here, with her permission, is the poem she wrote for me.

⌘ Ends in Fire

(for John Swinburn)

Somewhere,
in a deep gated forest,
there is a man
who ends in fire
pounding words into space,
words that race through him
with an urgency of importance,
syntax that lacks life until uttered
by his shoot-from-the-hip lips,
he hammers a legacy into a cyber stone,
permanent markings etched into the ethers,
he burns,
a deep ember of a man,
heart-open spark
ready to pool his eloquence
on the side of righteousness and justice,
ready to lend his pulsing typewriter fingers
to the side of beauty and light.
I hear the drumming of his keyboard in the distance,
soul percussive rhythms of a burning man,
the vibrations echo from his forest into
the valley where I sleep,
the ground shakes a muffled call,
his virtuous battle cry awakens me
and I drum my sound into the blank page morning,
a poem of light against the impending darkness,
we don our invisible armor together,
destined to figh the ugliness of the world
with the beauty of only our words.

Somewhere,
surrounded in treetops,
there is a man
who ends in fire
manipulating the flow of energy
towards creation,
progressively counting up
the trail of consciousness he leaves behind,
the breadcrumbs of brilliance
left for true seekers to find,
he burns,
but his fire will only illumine the way,
somedays, only a line of thought
leaves his cavern of continuous thinking,
somedays, a recipe for international delicacies,
somedays, a question that leaves one answering all day,
the golden thread through all his writing,
HEART.

Somewhere,
in a cloak of pine and birdsong,
there is a man who ends in fire,
smoothing and thumbing
the surface of soft clay into a face,
the expression of a mask that stares back
through black holes of possibility,
he shapes mouths, noses,
eye-sockets and chins
into abstract manifestations of humanity’s search,
sometimes the words don’t come
and there is another type
of song that his hands become,
a true artist is limitless,
sculpture is a physical creation,
Michelangelo saw an angel trapped in marble
and carved until he set it free,
perhaps
YOU are
shaping
your
own
deliverance.

John,
you are a man
who ends in fire.
John Swinburne
was the very first recorded
ancestral reference to your name,
Northumberland 1274,
and today,
you are here minus an e,
a name lit with undaunted embers,
your crest carries the motto Semel et semper
—”Once and Always”—
this is the uninterrupted war cry of a man on fire,
a man who defies lifetimes
to come back with a lexicon of weapons
to fight for the side of humanity’s evolution,
the write the story of humanity’s dying and blooming again.

I recognize a fellow warrior.
I know the drumming keyboard sounds that bounce
off the limestone and fallen leaves.
I hear you.
I hear your song.

We write for what’s right.

Once and always,
we write for what’s right.

© Kai Coggin 2015

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Ugly Weather and Odd Dreams

Another bizarre dream. I wrote the words below the moment I woke up this morning to capture everything I could from the dream that awoke me. I think it’s all part of the same dream, but I can’t be sure. It makes no sense to me, whatsoever, but my memory of most of the dream was vivid when I wrote it.

I gave a friend a ride to the vet, but when we got there she seemed to have forgotten her dog. I offered to take her back to her house to get the dog, but suddenly she felt her purse fidget and heard her dog bark; it was inside her purse. She gave her dog to the attendant and we left to walk to a nearby grocery store; somehow, I no longer had my car.

On the way, we came upon a woman I worked with in my first association job, when I was about twenty-five years old; in the dream, she looked the way she looked when I knew her. She kissed me, a long and deep kiss, and wrapped her arms around me and repeatedly thrust her hips at me. Another two or three people joined us as we continued to walk. We crossed a very busy street and entered a grocery store, where we met my wife and several of her friends, who were just about to leave. My wife said if I wanted a ride home, I should call her. They left.

As I wandered through the produce section of the store, I realized the people I had been with were no longer with me. I began to look for them when a commotion at the front doors caught my attention. Workers were frantically bringing in shopping carts and taking down displays on the walk in front of the store. I looked outside and saw that the grocery store was at one end of a mall. Similar commotions were taking place outside entries to the mall and, next door, at the entrance to a restaurant. I went outside and looked skyward and, in the distance, saw a massive rotating swirl of clouds, very high in the sky. The swirl did not look like a tornado. Rather, it was a flat disk of thin, cirrus-cloud-like strips in multiple pastel colors, rotating at incredible speed. Suddenly, crowds of people began rushing past me, trying to get into the restaurant and the grocery store, but they were being turned away. I saw panic in the faces of the people trying to enter.

I heard the voices of one of my walking companions, “You better get out of here, it’s going to get bad!” Then she rushed past me toward the end of the grocery store. A crowd of other people followed. Rain began to fall, heavier than I’ve ever experienced. The rain was coming down with such force and the raindrops were so closely spaced that I found it hard to breathe. I turned and followed the crowd.

I reached a set of steps that went down to a street below, but water flooded the street. Cars floated by at high speed, bobbing wildly in the stream. Across the street was a fire station, where a large crowd gathered in one of the fire engine bays. Looking around to find a way to cross over, I saw that there was a wide ledge on the building I had just left. I climbed up to the ledge and inched my way along until I reached a raised pedestrian bridge. The bridge, constructed of steel framing, had a heavy wire mesh walking surface and sides. By the time I got to the bridge, water had risen almost to the walking surface. As I ran across the bridge, which seemed much wider as I was crossing than it did when I first saw it, I heard people screaming. “Hurry, a car’s coming!” I looked to my right and saw car careening toward me, floating at an angle to the bridge. I ran as fast as I could, water spraying in my face from below and above. I made it to a landing on the other side just as the car hit the bridge, ripping it from the landing on both sides of the street. It disappeared into the flood below.

I finally made it inside the fire station and followed the crowd through the back, into what looked like a locker room with private stalls, like a public restroom. The crowd got larger and the room filled with people pressed against one another. Just then, I noticed I had an iron, the kind used to press clothes, in my hand; it was hot. And then, I woke up.

 

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Three Hundred Forty-Nine

The age of the universe is, according to theorists well-versed in such things, 13.79 billion years, give or take 21 million years. That, they theorize, is the amount of time that’s lapsed since the Big Bang. Prior to the Big Bang there was…nothing? I cannot wrap my head around that concept, that there was nothing that became something…or that the pre-universe was an ultra-dense mass that suddenly and violently exploded to create…everything. Scientists in the 19th and early 20th century (not all of them, I suppose) believed the universe was simply an eternal, steady state of existence. Other theories suggest our universe is simply one of an infinite number of multiverses. No wonder people believe in some form of deity; reality is too hard to understand without relying on supernatural magic. I don’t need a deity; I’m perfectly happy to be utterly confused by reality.

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Debooked

Once again, I have removed myself from Facebook. It won’t last, but I desire a respite from the fray. Once I am “in” the Facebook activity stream, I am hooked on it and can’t seem to get away from it. It’s like an addiction…an addiction to the artificial sense of camaraderie the site produces; people care about me, so all must be right with the world. But, in truth, people care about the activity stream, not so much the people in it.

I do not like feeling “needy.” And that’s the sensation I experience at times when I’m checking Facebook. I “need” to see the latest updates. Pre-Facebook, I didn’t get 24/7 updates from people I’ve never met; somehow, I now require them in order to be a whole person.

Perhaps the online silence will spur me to write more. I’ve been taking an unearned break from the mindset necessary to write something worth reading. Back to work.

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Three Hundred Forty-Eight

I am so distant from knowledge I want desperately to have; but I’m too afraid of the efforts required to get it. A case in point was, coincidentally, shown on last night’s TV. I’d love to know the intimate details of motorcycle gangs, but I’m utterly unwilling to put myself in the middle of whatever it takes to learn about them. I guess the strength of one’s curiosity is measured in one’s willingness to take risks. My curiosity is too damn weak. There’s shame in that.

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Feelings for My Teacher

My violent end could have been predicted, and very probably was, by my first grade teacher, Regina Scoop.  She could have told you, and I suspect she did, that I was destined, first, to infect the school and, then, the entire town with my unique brand of distrust and disillusionment. I started on the pathway to becoming a sociopath early on, you see.

When I was accused of telling pernicious lies about my sexual liaisons with Leona “Tender” Matthews, my high school biology teacher, my history got a lot of attention, a lot more than while it was being made. The thing is, they weren’t lies.  And I did not instigate things. I was a victim, albeit a deeply hopeful and willing victim.

As an adult, you would expect those earlier inappropriate experiences with my teacher to haunt me as ugly, improper mistakes.  Your expectations would be wrong, of course, because I have no such haunting memories.  Instead, I have recollections of delightful lust, made current by images of the woman in the newspaper.

What Regina Scoop wouldn’t have known, though, was that it was her loathing of me that led me to murder. It was Regina’s disgust with my private form of passion that prompted me to encircle another woman’s neck with a forty-eight inch length of stainless steel wire and pull it tight until that thin piece of steel cut her air supply like a scalpel slashes through flesh.

Tender Matthews never knew the source of Regina’s trip to eternity, though I tried to tell her a dozen times. I was simply a convenient target of Tender’s naked lust, a lust for which my reciprocity was evident and enormous. We may have struggled to contain the fierceness of our mutual carnal hunger, but the fight was in vain, unable to match the strength of unchecked lust laid bare in an empty locker room late that Friday afternoon.

The appearance of the State Police, guns at the ready, was unwelcome but not a surprise. I was unwilling to succumb to their taunts, yet unable to sidle around them. So the gun play seemed to follow the usual pattern; a socially despicable expression of throbbing lust met by a shower of machismo in the form of lead. Regina’s death was avenged, at least in the minds of the fascists with hot-barreled pistols, and Tender’s lust was hidden behind a veil of rage disguised as purity and gentleness. I was the only real victim in the swirl of chaos, a child whose reciprocal aphrodisia spawned attacks of conscience unequaled in the modern world.

Who should pay for my lust? Or for hers? Or for the fact it existed at all? Poor Regina Scoop never paid for her loathing; it was her unknown accomplice. Tender never paid, either, but she wanted me to pay for abandoning her at that critical moment. Damn her. Damn them. Damn us all.

 

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Three Hundred Forty-Seven

Admit your failings, even if solely to yourself. Only by acknowledging your flaws can you hope to begin the long and arduous task of correcting them.

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Distinct Impossibilities

It’s almost eleven o’clock. I should have been in bed half an hour ago, but I haven’t finished my bourbon and coke (yes, I have this crude habit of drinking the swill of the working classes) I made just a few minutes ago. The sword I painted recently has come, miraculously, to life and I am holding it in my hand. It’s heavier than I would have thought it to be, considering that it’s made of acrylic paint spread in a thin layer over my imagination, laid flat on an imaginary plane.

Ah, I see now. The small but heavy unicorn galloping back and forth from tip to tang adds considerable weight to the imaginary weapon.

Who would have thought I would find myself in the midst of a psychotic break at this hour? Generally, they take place very early in the morning, just before I awaken; I can handle them better when I’m asleep. But tonight, I must deal with mental fireworks in a state of wakefulness. Tonight, I must listen to the noise in my head and exercise firm control over the machete in my hand, its blade anxious to sever limbs and behave as a horizontal guillotine.

I’ve been successful thus far in wrestling the demons inhabiting that empty cavern buried deep in my head. We’ve reached a compromise, of sorts, wherein I agree to acknowledge their right to my mental real estate and they agree to cede control of same during my waking hours. But we’ve been running into disagreements over definitions lately. The demons suggest my waking hours are too long; they want control from 10 pm to 8 am; I refused that nonsense outright, inasmuch as I tend to go to bed after 11 and arise before 5. Bastards! They have called in a team of trained arbitrators to deal with the matter. I do not trust them; they are paid by checks written on a joint account owned by British Petroleum and Walmart.

We have a session scheduled for the morning. I have agreed to offer them breakfast, consisting of loin of unicorn , spritzed with angel wing dressing. If I exit my supernatural state of magical and mystical wanderings before then, I have no idea what I’ll feed them.

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Three Hundred Forty-Six

There may come a time for an armed insurrection. Not there; here.

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Three Hundred Forty-Five

Don’t disclose, not even to yourself, what you don’t want others to know. You might ask, “What could that be?” I don’t have the answer. I know only that what you know is not knowledge in a vacuum; hear it ricochet against the walls of the prison in which you keep your mind, revealing secrets to every passer-by.

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Three Hundred Forty-Four

We can experiment with new personalities like we try on new clothes. If one doesn’t fit, we can shed it and try on another one. But, what if it weren’t so easy? What if we had to make a long-term commitment when shifting from one to another? I suspect we’d be more conservative and deliberate. Then again, maybe that describes us now. Adjustments to our personalities are as easy as pie; but we wonder whether there’s arsenic in the filling.

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Three Hundred Forty-Three

Worry is a symptom of an emotion, not an emotion of its own standing. Worry arises from fear and frustration, billowing like smoke from a box of damp newsprint, too wet to burn yet too hot to erupt in flames. If a problem is fixable, fix it; if not, worry is worthless.

 

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Three Hundred Forty-Two

I’ve never been more concerned about the future of the United States of America than I am now. I fear the growing popularity of Donald Trump, with his bombastic racist and nationalist diatribes and his naked Islamophobia, offers evidence that I live in a nation of idiots who are rushing to welcome an era of fascism. It was fear that gave rise to the shame of Japanese internment camps after Pearl Harbor; it is fear and stupidity that gives rise to calls for immigration tests based on religious beliefs.

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Three Hundred Forty-One

A walk among naked trees on a cool, bright Autumn day is energizing. Listening to birds and watching them flit from tree to tree took my mind off obstacles. Shielding my eyes from the sun as I ambled along a well-groomed path, I thought, it’s possible I could make a daily walk in the woods a habit again. Some habits, even good and enjoyable ones, are hard to start.

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Emotion

I struggle to speak a language with no syntax,
no grammatical armada to shepherd me in to port.
Colloquial mistakes in this vocabulary can be fatal
to the unschooled linguist, drunk with misplaced
appreciation of words with no definition, carelessly
assigning meaning to gibberish phrases and noisy chatter.

This difficult tongue is awash in unintelligible
sentences, a writhing patois eager to drown even the
native speaker in a tidal pool of his own making.
The only way to avoid its deadly currents is to
quiet the conversation and remain mute, safely
out of reach of its relentless, ravaging floods.

Try as I might, though, I find myself unable to
endure silence, the only safe harbor from its storms.
The allure of the language bathes my self-imposed
aphasia with an unwelcome cure, a powerful elixir
that overcomes my desire for silence, replacing it
with an overwhelming need to read its dictionary, aloud.

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Three Hundred Forty

Twenty-five days until this year fizzles into history. I wish I could express joy at this fraction of a lifetime that’s ending, but when I recall the year, my eyes get cloudy and dark. I remember awful, ugly things that never should have happened. But, if I try hard enough, I am able to wash that pain away by remembering the goodness I witnessed during this year sliding to a close. The life we leave to future generations will be one worth leaving only if we do our damnedest to rip the horror from the headlines and replace it with charity and love. I realize my words sound hopelessly silly and maudlin. It doesn’t matter; that’s what we need. Let’s not let discomfort get in the way of humanity. Just this once?

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Three Hundred Thirty-Nine

Routine can be comforting, but it can wreck creativity and vitality. In everything from the foods we eat to the activities in which we engage, variety is important. The key is finding that delicate balance between comfort and challenge.

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Comfort Versus Luxury

At what point does comfort cross into luxury?

That question came to me this morning, unexpectedly, while I was checking the clothes dryer. I washed a mish-mash of clothes last night—jeans, t-shirts, socks, etc.—but forgot about them. When I awoke sometime before four o’clock, I remembered, so I put them in the dryer.

A while later, I checked to see whether they were dry. As I opened the door to the laundry room, a blanket of delightfully warm air swept over me. I hadn’t felt chilly before—in fact I was quite comfortable—but that little room felt absolutely delightful. It felt luxuriously warm.

That’s when it occurred to me to ask: at what point does comfort become luxury? And vice versa? When does what once was luxury become the standard for comfort?

I was perfectly happy with the temperature in the house  set to sixty-seven degrees, thirty-nine degrees warmer than the chilly temperature outside this morning. I was comfortable in my shorts and t-shirt. But the temperature in the laundry room was several degrees warmer. It felt good. Luxurious.

Yet other people might consider sixty-seven degrees too cool; they might consider comfort a toasty seventy-four degrees. Still others might find fifty degrees comfortable, especially if wrapped in a down comforter; they might consider the temperature settings in my house a luxury, especially if the costs or efforts required to keep the house at that temperature were beyond their capabilities.

Comfort and luxury depend on context. To me, the lifestyles lived by people I consider wealthy are lifestyles of luxury. But to people who scrape by on a few dollars, or less, a day, my lifestyle might be one of obscenely conspicuous consumption.

Could I be comfortable setting the thermostat to fifty degrees? I suspect I could. I probably should, if for no other reason than to experience first-hand the situations confronting less fortunate people a stone’s throw from where I live. But I’m not alone in my house, so I will not impose my guilt on my spouse. I wonder whether I would actually give it a try if I lived alone?  I do not know the answer to that; I would have to know myself better to have that answer.

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Three Hundred Thirty-Eight

In the end, nothing matters. But until then, everything matters.

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